At the beginning of November my brother and his (now) wife got married in Arundel, in beautiful setting surrounding Selden Barn, West Sussex.
Now, I’m not just saying this because I’m bias, but it was the most heart warming wedding I’ve attended. Obviously it was a little extra special because it was my brother and his fiancé of 9 years who were about to tie the knot, but the ceremony itself was so personal to them.
The ceremony was non religious, so instead of a priest discussing the importance of marriage, a Celebrant was there to take their place to talk about how the couple had grown together and how special their love is. And in the background there was the subtle sound of a sitar and tabla.
I’d never actually experienced anything like that before but it was genuinely so special and unique – and the vows made it 10 times more emotional.
And because the ceremony consisted of a small group of close family and friends, it made everything feel so personal and precious.
I was asked to do a reading at the start of the ceremony by Kahlil Gibran:
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.
WOW – aren’t those words so powerful and mesmerising?!
We were asked not to take any photos during the ceremony, but I managed to get a couple of the room before guests started arriving:
And here’s a photo of the lovely couple after exchanging rings:
Don’t they look stunning?!
Bry wore a gorgeous east meets west outfit with the colours of a traditional English wedding outfit with Indian embroidery, amaaaaazing – and also very sparkly!
My brother also went with a traditional Indian outfit with the theme of midnight blue and gold.
As we loved the midnight blue so much, my younger brother, my parents and I decided to go with a midnight blue theme throughout all our outfits:
The bride had bought everything for her wedding, and the day before the wedding was a team effort to set up the venue. She’d created a vision in her head of how she wanted the tables, the centre pieces, the sweet cart, and her photo booth to look like. As well as heaps more elements that made the venue look amazing.
Oh, and did I mention the wedding cake?! Bry’s dad is a cheese maker and he made a lush amount of cheese and placed them on different tiers, each piece with a little sign to say what flavour it was – this was theeeeee definition of heaven for cheese lovers, a.k.a, me! 😍
The whole wedding was beautiful. The ceremony was intimate and special, the food was delicious, the speeches were captivating and awe-inspiring and we partied until dawn. So overall, an amazing day spent with amazing friends and family.
AND, I can finally say that Bry is “officially” my sister, even though she’s had this status for the last 9 years.
So congratulations guys! 💍